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The Yearning for Intimacy, by Vishara
The popularity of relationship web sites, books, seminars and dating services indicate a deep yearning among young and old for a committed partnership. There is, amid we humans, a longing to find someone who loves us exactly the way we are; that perfect, special someone who will support us as we grow and change; one who accepts our love and gives it back in full measure. The quest for 'the one' begins at a very early age and continues through the senior years. As evidenced by the divorce rate, finding Mr. or Ms. Right is not an easy feat to accomplish.
Is it possible that the reasons and criteria by which we attempt to fulfill this yearning for intimacy with our true one is flawed? I believe the answer to that question is an emphatic "yes".
In our book, The Joining, the story weaves in and out of two very different frequencies in consciousness around relationships. The first is the romantic search for 'the one' that becomes the common soap opera, need-fulfillment relationship so often ending in separation. The second is a new form of relationship based completely on being directed by your own divine spirit - that inner voice that is always waiting to reveal it's direction if you are ready to listen.
How is it that the majority of the human race, believing in happily-ever-after love, is trapped in unsatisfying, sometimes abusive relationships?
The first prominent need-fulfillment energy bringing people together in intimate relationships is either armic or from early childhood wounds that are needing to be recognized, healed and released. People often choose relationships that mirror the dynamics of childhood distortional interactions experienced vicariously through parents, teachers, social dynamics and directly.
Many people in this time of their evolution experience a physical reality of life run by a 'biological, sexual imperative'; that is, a life centered on survival and procreation. While this life focus is mostly subconscious, it is held in the very cells of the body and manifests in choices that fulfill personal needs.
Men are expected to be successful and accomplish deeds or have sons that will live on in history. Women are expected to find a strong man to protect her and her children. When lost to this force, strong, successful women can become willing to pay most any price for someone who fulfills this driving human urge to join with another. In the body, it can literally feel like survival when it comes to being under the protection of a mate.
Fear of death is at the root of it all; death in all forms - the body, a job, relationships, even when the form of relating is abusive and no longer supports happiness or evolution. The 'biological imperative' says to survive at all costs. And we all know that the 'cost' can be very high. Fear of death brings with it great suffering.
Beneath all these fear-based desires there is a deeper truth, an inner place that is awaiting our attention. When we look to the outer world to full this inner place, it always ends in pain and suffering. There is no "knight on a white horse" coming to the rescue even though at times it may seem that way in the throes of new love.
Is it possible that the reasons and criteria by which we attempt to fulfill this yearning for intimacy with our true one is flawed? I believe the answer to that question is an emphatic "yes".
In our book, The Joining, the story weaves in and out of two very different frequencies in consciousness around relationships. The first is the romantic search for 'the one' that becomes the common soap opera, need-fulfillment relationship so often ending in separation. The second is a new form of relationship based completely on being directed by your own divine spirit - that inner voice that is always waiting to reveal it's direction if you are ready to listen.
How is it that the majority of the human race, believing in happily-ever-after love, is trapped in unsatisfying, sometimes abusive relationships?
The first prominent need-fulfillment energy bringing people together in intimate relationships is either armic or from early childhood wounds that are needing to be recognized, healed and released. People often choose relationships that mirror the dynamics of childhood distortional interactions experienced vicariously through parents, teachers, social dynamics and directly.
Many people in this time of their evolution experience a physical reality of life run by a 'biological, sexual imperative'; that is, a life centered on survival and procreation. While this life focus is mostly subconscious, it is held in the very cells of the body and manifests in choices that fulfill personal needs.
Men are expected to be successful and accomplish deeds or have sons that will live on in history. Women are expected to find a strong man to protect her and her children. When lost to this force, strong, successful women can become willing to pay most any price for someone who fulfills this driving human urge to join with another. In the body, it can literally feel like survival when it comes to being under the protection of a mate.
Fear of death is at the root of it all; death in all forms - the body, a job, relationships, even when the form of relating is abusive and no longer supports happiness or evolution. The 'biological imperative' says to survive at all costs. And we all know that the 'cost' can be very high. Fear of death brings with it great suffering.
Beneath all these fear-based desires there is a deeper truth, an inner place that is awaiting our attention. When we look to the outer world to full this inner place, it always ends in pain and suffering. There is no "knight on a white horse" coming to the rescue even though at times it may seem that way in the throes of new love.
Spirit-Led Relationship
At the time I met my pre-destined partner, Qua, I had lost any hope of finding myself in a partnership on my spiritual journey in a human body. Upon reflections, I see that all my relationships had their foundation in need-fulfillment and fear to varying degrees. I surrendered my fantasy of 'the one' ever appearing in my life. I was quite content knowing that my future was to be solitary in service of following my own inner voice wherever it led me.
My destiny was headed in a completely different direction from that of my thinking mind. Having surrendered the direction of my life to a higher power, I found myself entering into a totally new frequency around relationships. It was not based on any biological or worldly need nor did it have any of the normal romancing, or getting to know one another, before deciding whether or not to be in an intimate relationship. Instead, my partner and I recognized each other from beyond time, our Spirits clearly directed us to be together and we followed our inner knowing into the mystery without having any idea why or how our relationship would evolve.
In the years since, I have meet others who came together in much the same way. These partnerships form quickly and require that we face some of our deepest fears and perfect our ability to trust and surrender into Spirit. Often friends and family are shocked to see these partnerships form so quickly and will attempt to offer cautionary advice.
On the upside, there is no doubt for the individuals involved that they are meant to be together. Usually there are very few personality conflicts. Even after year of being together, Qua and I share a sense of profound surrender into the mystery of life and each other. The core of our relationship is centered in the recognition of each other as Spiritual Beings sharing a human experience. Without needs and expectations dominating the choices being made, harmony and deep knowing is the driving force. It is clear that we have been brought together for something bigger than the two of us alone. Our purpose and mission is revealed to us one moment at a time as is true of everyone whether we always notice or not.
Blessings on your journey!
Vishara
Author of The Joining...from the Silence Beyond Time
My destiny was headed in a completely different direction from that of my thinking mind. Having surrendered the direction of my life to a higher power, I found myself entering into a totally new frequency around relationships. It was not based on any biological or worldly need nor did it have any of the normal romancing, or getting to know one another, before deciding whether or not to be in an intimate relationship. Instead, my partner and I recognized each other from beyond time, our Spirits clearly directed us to be together and we followed our inner knowing into the mystery without having any idea why or how our relationship would evolve.
In the years since, I have meet others who came together in much the same way. These partnerships form quickly and require that we face some of our deepest fears and perfect our ability to trust and surrender into Spirit. Often friends and family are shocked to see these partnerships form so quickly and will attempt to offer cautionary advice.
On the upside, there is no doubt for the individuals involved that they are meant to be together. Usually there are very few personality conflicts. Even after year of being together, Qua and I share a sense of profound surrender into the mystery of life and each other. The core of our relationship is centered in the recognition of each other as Spiritual Beings sharing a human experience. Without needs and expectations dominating the choices being made, harmony and deep knowing is the driving force. It is clear that we have been brought together for something bigger than the two of us alone. Our purpose and mission is revealed to us one moment at a time as is true of everyone whether we always notice or not.
Blessings on your journey!
Vishara
Author of The Joining...from the Silence Beyond Time